He uses women’s facilities. He’s a danger to all young women and girls
I’m a woman and I care about women’s rights to privacy, safety, and definition as a class of people; female. When I was 16 I was groomed online to provide sexual favours for a 21 year old man who lives in the UK. He probably still has illegal photos of me. For nearly eight years…
A biological man will always be a man to me
This matters to me because I can’t bear the thought of women’s rights being taken by men who believe they are women. I don’t care what surgery they have, what hormone pills they take, what they think or how they dress, but a biological man will always be a man to me. I couldn’t bear…
I will oppose any move to allow any male-born person access to female-only spaces
I care because women are still oppressed and progress will be reversed if we cannot maintain the reality of what a woman is. Biological realities create issues for me that men generally do not face (eg I am smaller than my partner and he can physically intimidate me) and the oppression of women has affected…
I’ve gone from fully supporting gender id politics to questioning some things to questioning everything
As a Black lesbian, I’ve gone from fully supporting gender id politics to questioning some things to questioning everything. I realized how homophobic and sexist their rhetoric is, how riddled it is with contradictions and inconsistencies that I’m told I don’t have a right to question or challenge or have basic concerns about. This is…
I was abused from a young age by many of the men in my alcoholic mother’s life
It matters to me that men who identify as women may enter into jobs where I would be forced to accept them into my space, specifically: the care sector and nursing. I will need personal care in the future and I may be forced to accept a self ID’ing male for my personal care needs.…
I expect I would have either been murdered by him or killed myself if there hadn’t been a women only safe house
This matters to me because when I lived in a women’s refuge with my children, my ex partner had already injured me repeatedly and if he knew where we were he’d have done anything to get to us, I expect I would have either been murdered by him or killed myself if there hadn’t been…
It’s rape culture writ large
I care because I’ve experienced decades of male harassment and abuse so I understand fully the need for safe spaces for women and girls. I am also deeply concerned about children’s natural explorations of their world and themselves being medicalised to the extent of preventing puberty, having dangerous surgeries, and potentially shortening their lives. Telling…
I was attacked by a Trans neighbour in Women’s Housing
I was attacked by a Trans neighbour in Women’s Housing. I told people, and tweeted. I received foul tweets. Melissa M, Incredulous that I have to do this
I am a survivor of severe, organised abuse in childhood
First and foremost, I am a survivor of severe, organised abuse in childhood. Secondly, I have worked for decades for women and vulnerable people, including as a human rights lawyer for victims of violence, as a writing teacher with mothers in prison and the community and in groups campaigning on consent. Thirdly, I am a…
I honestly start to cry when I realise that Stonewall are callous enough to want to take that away
After I did the Freedom Programme I noticed that I had a sort of bodily trauma response if I couldn’t control my boundaries around unfamiliar men. Even at the door of my own house. Actually that experience had always been there, but I hadn’t recognised it before. I have trans people in my life and…
There is a special bond that forms between women in the absence of men
My adult life has been marred by bullying, invariably by men, especially those in positions of power, but also from those with whom I was intimate. I experienced verbal and psychological abuse from my husband, directed at me and my children. I was fortunate to be directed to my local DV shelter by a friend.…
I keep telling them that they are allowed to refuse care that makes them discomfortable
My family consists of my sister, my mother and my grandmother. I have no living male relatives. I am a lesbian who has been sexually assaulted, my mother has been harrassed, my sister and grandmother have been raped, my girlfriend has been raped. My sister has mental and physical disabilities and needs professional support, so…
I’m a victim of male physical and sexual violence
It matters to me because I’m worried about female safety in female spaces. And general comfort. I’m a victim of male physical and sexual violence, triggered by men in spaces where I’m vulnerable. I’m worried about erasure of woman using “gender neutral” language. I’ve liked tweets, signed petitions. I’ve experienced tension in whatsapp groups. Hannah…
I am supposed to disregard the fact that he is in fact in possession of full male sexual organs
This matters to me because I am a 40 year old mother of a 4 year old daughter. I have been sexually assaulted (police involved) at my place at work as a steward at a premier league football club. I took it in my stride but my wonderful male supervisor witnessed it and had to…
My mother & sister were sexually assaulted
I care because my mother & sister were sexually assaulted. I have sympathy with those with dysphoria who’ve had sex reassignment but I do not trust men. They will abuse self-ID. The numbers of women who’ve been sexually assaulted by men is a warning that’s being ignored. I have expressed myself online, despite fear of…
My life so far has been defined by abuse
I am twenty years old, and my life so far has been defined by abuse. I endured childhood rapes, intimate partner violence, and PTSD in addition to all the abuse that typically comes from being a woman. Nonetheless, I was strong and made it to where I am today. When I was raped in my…
Now I’m going to try and be as strong again
My ex had autogynophilic tendencies and used this as part of decades of domestic abuse including sexual. After being told that he was most likely a malignant narcissist with psychopathic tendencies i started to see parallels with TRA attacks that I’d started to see happen. He had enforced language changed etc from very early on…
I am concerned that my gender non-conforming son will grow to hate his beautiful healthy body
I, like too many women, have experienced grooming, rape, sexual assault, and domestic violence and am fearful of allowing men into women’s spaces. I am concerned that my gender non-conforming son will grow to hate his beautiful healthy body because of the narrative that gender trumps sex. I have created anonymous social media accounts to…
My biggest struggle has been explaining to my 3-year old daughter where grandad has gone and why she had to become gran
I care because human rights are important for everyone. It has become very personal as I now have a daughter, my dad recently identified as trans, I work in mental health which includes young people who identify as trans and females who have been victims of male violence. All of these people have rights -…
It took me a long time to find my voice and now that I’m supporting my daughter to find hers, we will not be silenced.
This matters to me because I’m not about to have a lifetime of sex based oppression, violence and sexual assaults brushed aside to appease anyone. It took me a long time to find my voice and now that I’m supporting my daughter to find hers, we will not be silenced. I have spoken out online…
I would be halfway through my transition by now
This issue is deeply important to me for many reasons. I learned about Self ID and was panic stricken as I have been made a victim of sexual violence by men repeatedly, and single sex spaces are vital to my ability to access public services. I like with chronic pain and C-PTSD as a result…
If we cannot name our oppression, we cannot fight it
This feels like such an important issue for me for several reasons. I have personally experienced the ways in which trans identifying males entering female only spaces completely changes the dynamic, effectively silencing female voices, even when the purpose of the space has been designed precisely to elevate women’s voices. I see the violence and…