This matters to me because I am a feminist who believes in equality. You absolutely cannot understand what it means to be female if you have been raised and socialised as a man. You cannot understand what makes a female feel vulnerable around male bodies. Male entitlement. Male strength. Male power.
I have been raped more than once. Sexually abused from childhood. Controlled, belittled, groped, patronised, objectified by men. Being a woman is not a costume, it is a lifetime of looking over your shoulder. Being born and raised as a male will give you no insight into that underlying fear.
I have done very little. I’m too scared to put my thoughts out there. I’ve seen brave women who have spoken out and have been attacked and abused for their beliefs.
I have lost a good friend. She has been in an abusive relationship for years, and left it to go into another. She is a good person and has been raised to “be nice”. She is nice to her abusers and blames herself. That is what female socialisation does to you.
Doris, I am a woman. An adult human female