Author: bomp123

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Media and Arts

I feel like I’m being shown the colour red whilst someone screams in my face ITS BLUE ITS BLUE.

I care because I’m a woman living in an increasingly frightening world. And I’m not allowed to say what I think. I feel like I’m being shown the colour red whilst someone screams in my face ITS BLUE ITS BLUE. Some days I feel like I’m going mad. Because I believe Biology is real I am having to defend myself all the time.

I have spoken in confidence to other friends, we are all scared to say things publicly but there are so many of us talking privately.

I have had my Wikipedia page butchered and doctored to read “is a transphobic actress’ I have been told off on social Media. Facebook and twitter. I have lost friends and dare not talk to others as I know I would lose them too. I think I have lost work over it but cannot prove it.

L, Actress, anon

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Men

Stonewall etc have tried to deny same sex attraction and replace it with gender

I’m a gay male. I feel concerned that Stonewall etc have tried to deny same sex attraction and replace it with gender. I am worried that this could result in serious undermining of gay / lesbian rights which I feel are more fragile than some appear to think.

I’m very concerned that young gay men / lesbians may take hasty and life altering decisions to transition and then regret it later. I do not trust organisations like Mermaids or Stonewall not to encourage transitions in young people who might actually just need time to come to terms with sexuality.

I have put across my views on Twitter. I have spoken to various friends and a couple of colleagues about this issue. I wish I could keep my mouth shut as it doesn’t win friends, but I just feel it’s so serious.

I do wonder if I haven’t lost one or two friends about this issue, though no one has said that directly (just disappeared). I generally try to keep quiet apart from on Twitter where I am partially anonymous (though use my real name).

I worry slightly about a convo I had at work with a senior manager who runs the Pride network.

I generally keep it fairly low key though so no huge issues.

Gay Man

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Healthcare Media and Arts

Obviously lesbians can’t have penises

It started as bafflement at the perversion of language – obviously lesbians can’t have penises – and grew into a horrified realisation that there is a huge movement to define men as women (and vice versa), which particularly concerns me because it appears to me totally regressive, and I don’t want my children to grow up thinking they can’t be gender non-conforming, and that instead they have to ‘become’ the opposite sex.

I also see a lot of men taking advantage at the expense of women by claiming membership of their sex class, in business, in sport, in shelters, in prisons, in politics – and as a man it appalls me.

They do not seem to care that men oppress and abuse women, and that it’s not even about transwomen – it’s about the bad men who will take advantage of the freedom to ‘be women’ if that right is extended to any man.

I have written things which have had an impact on the debate. I also tweet furiously (but politely) under a pseudonym.

Businesses which were implicated swiftly dissolved their relationship with mine. I believe under pressure from their internal LGBT reps.

MC, Centrist dad

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Healthcare Media and Arts

The consideration afforded to other protected groups doesn’t seem to extend to women

I care about material reality – the consequences of ignoring material reality will not be good for anyone in society long-term. I am worried about the safeguarding consequences for women and children of not being able to name material reality ( sex) . I am worried about the ways in which women’s voices are belittled and denigrated in this debate.

I find it disturbing that the consideration afforded to other protected groups doesn’t seem to extend to women and their concerns . It is philosophically, and ontologically frightening to see the potential erasure of ‘natal’ women as a named and discrete sex class

I have stood up for sex based rights in my religious community – argued for the right of ‘natal’ women to meet by themselves. I have petitioned for my organisation to take sex based perspectives into account and to appreciate that many people see gender ideology as oppressive.  I have discussed my concerns with colleagues friends and family. I wrote to my MP in the wake of the Labour hustings to explain that I was concerned that sex-based rights organisations were being vilified and to explain that many consider gender ideology, to be harmful to young women and girls.

It has been stressful, but no negative consequences as yet.

P

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Media and Arts

It’s a sexist theory that otherwise intelligent people are going along with!

This matters to me because I am a woman. I’ve experienced life as a woman both good and bad experiences. I have daughters. I fear for their safety if men can put a dress on and enter a space where they are vulnerable- like toilets or changing rooms. I feel we are opening the door to predators and perverts who will use and exploit this “self-identify” rule.

I also take great offence at the idea men can be women if they wear a dress/lipstick/pink – it’s a sexist theory that otherwise  intelligent people are going along with!

I have liked and retweeted JK Rowling’s tweets with comments. I have read different sides of the debate to clarify my own thoughts.

I have been called a TERF. I’ve been added to an online list of TERFs which I found really quite unnerving.

Lisa, Writer

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Media and Arts

A lot of WoC are falling for the trans rhetoric but forgetting about the injustices women still face

I care because sexism and misogyny are still rife within society and I hate how a lot of WoC are falling for the trans rhetoric but forgetting about the injustices women still face (especially black and brown women). I’m sympathetic to trans individuals and have nothing against them but their rights shouldn’t come at the detriment of women’s – there’s still many battlegrounds women have to overcome and we can’t forget this.

I’ve donated to campaigns and supported Fair Play For Women.

I know there will be consequences because of the social circles and demographic I’m a part of.

Fai, Gen Millenial, Mixed Race

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Media and Arts

Now males tell us we can’t talk about out experiences because it’s transphobic

I care because I know females are oppressed, suffer violence and are a long way from equality because of their biological sex and now males tell us we can’t talk about out experiences because it’s transphobic.

I have tweeted (using a pseudonym), spoken (carefully) to people in real life, shared pieces on Facebook.

I’ve lost friends after I’ve spoken up. I don’t dare to be much more vocal about it because I am a media freelancer and would lose work.

Flo, Adult human female

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Media and Arts

This is not what I fought for, this is not what I marched for

I care about this issue because women, especially lesbians, are being erased.  I’m a lesbian feminist with a degree in Women’s Studies.  In the 90’s I ran a women only night in the Gay Village in Manchester.  I had to fight to keep it women only (one night out of 7 nights on the top floor of a club that was mainly male on the other two floors).  This is not what I fought for, this is not what I marched for.  It’s corruption and misogyny and it terrifies me.

I’ve spoken out with friends and anyone who knows me will know my position.  I also donate and try and bring the issue out into the conversation in my sad attempt to get friends and family to take notice.  But that’s it because I work in media and currently looking for a job.  I will not get hired.  It’s f*cking insane.

Friends for decades are gone.  I don’t miss them.

Donna C

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Media and Arts

It feels like the biggest attack on women’s rights I have seen in my lifetime

This matters to me because I am extremely worried that young women in particular are being led down a medical path that includes surgery and hormones. Lots of adolescent girls go through a phase of being unhappy about their bodies or anxious about their sexuality, and instead of being helped to come to terms with that, they are being told that they are “really” boys and that they should irreversibly mutilate their bodies. I find that absolutely shocking.

I am also hugely concerned at the idea that men, simply by claiming to identify as women, should be allowed into women’s refuges or prisons, into women’s changing rooms or toilets, or to compete in women’s sports. It feels like the biggest attack on women’s rights I have seen in my lifetime. It’s horrifying.

I’ve written articles, I’ve donated to crowdfunders, I have spoken out on social media (though not much in real life), I’ve written to my MP, I’ve written submissions to public consultations (e.g. on the proposed GRA changes), I’ve attended a trial of a woman prosecuted for wrongthink and I’m involved in one of the campaigning groups for women’s rights.

I’ve had people be a bit rude to and about me on social media, but no actual threats. I am self-employed so it’s possible I’ve lost work, but I can’t be sure.

Hannah, Writer

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Parent

My female daughter identified as a man 5 years ago

My female daughter identified as a man 5 years ago. I looked into it, fell down the rabbit hole as I realised the entire ideology was hung on misogyny, porn and cosmetic pharmaceutical lobbying.

I’ve written to 2 MP’s, GEO, and university of misogynistic lecturer who posted raging abuse at women on social media

Consequences: Not really, apart from losing a couple of ‘mates’.

CB, Worried parent