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My daughter is transgender

My daughter is transgender.

I founded Our Duty, joined in with Fair Cop and others.

Too many negative consequences to list. The biggest, I guess, is not being able to work in my usual field.

Keith , Co-founder, Our Duty

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My daughter went to school stating that she now wanted to be known as a boy and they did not tell me

It has concerned me for several years and then directly affected my family 18 months ago when my daughter went to school stating that she now wanted to be known as a boy and they did not tell me.

The School’s policy was horrifying, promoting parental alienation, misrepresenting Equality minimising the risks of blockers and binders and conflating sex and gender. Also, as it promoted an ‘affirmation only’ approach in regard to the transgender identifying child  it is  no more in their best interests than to the rest of the school cohort.

I ultimately want to reach a point where all these toolkits are withdrawn and replaced with guidance which has been validated by experts in equality law and child safeguarding, and an inquiry to take place into how this situation was allowed to occur.

I have written to the school, local authority and a Politicians and also attended conferences and events to try and find out as much information on this subject as I can. I have also signed petitions, contributed to several crowd funders and stood outside the Royal Courts of Justice in support of a Judicial Review going on there.

I feel I am a bit of a social pariah at School events and some of the people in my social circle do avoid me.

Janine H, Concerned parent

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I was suicidally depressed as a bisexual GNC teenager and suspect the trans ideology might have snared me if it had been around then

I care because I’m a human who believes that truth and reality is the only way for humanity to progress. I care because I’m a woman and I care about womens’ rights for myself and for my sisters and daughters. I care because I am so grateful for the generations of feminists who won me my rights and I don’t want to squander their incredible work.

I care because I was suicidally depressed as a bisexual GNC teenager and suspect the trans ideology might have snared me if it had been around then, with permanent medical consequences. I care about womens’ sex based rights and our dignity. Most of all I care about my 2 year old daughter and the world she is going to grow up in.

I have spoken with my partner and friends in real life, anonymously on social media, have written in to letters and petitions, and donated to GNC causes.

I have been very careful.

Holly B, I always thought I was solidly left wing until I learned about the trans ideology, Australia

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Not giving up without a fight

Women are a sex class & if we cannot define ourselves we cannot identify or fight discrimination. This discrimination still exists and happens because of our sex.

I’ve attended meetings, lobbied elected reps, signed Labour Women’s Declaration, raised the issue at Union training – dismissed & mocked for raising it, put literature about this when trying on clothes in shops, left literature in public toilets

I can no longer talk about it at home for fear of harming my relationship with my ROGD child.

CM, Not giving up without a fight

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Healthcare Parent

As a grandmother I want the future of my my granddaughters…to include full participation in public life

This matters to me because as a grandmother I want the future of my my granddaughters in particular to include full participation in public life.  The onslaught on the rights of women and children will limit that participation by making single sex facilities unsafe by allowing males free access.  They will also be limited by the removal of women only shortlists and the right to single sex sports.

I have spoken to as many people as I can in my daily life and written to my MP and several retail outlets pointing out the dangers of self idenitfication and the removal of single sex provisions.

I have been dismissed as having a bee in my bonnet which detracts from the overall respect I am shown.

Sophie Smith, Mother, grandmother

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Taking medication will affect my child forever

My child identifies as trans and is aiming to access hormone treatment while still a teen. My child only recently identified as trans and has self diagnosed their gender dysphoria. Taking medication will affect my child forever. However, because I am uncertain that opting in to a potential lifetime of medical intervention at the age of 15 is something to question, I am thought of as transphobic.

On social media, parents with non-affirmative approaches to trans teens are often described as abusive.

I have questioned women’s loos being converted into GN loos as a way to support trans employees (who I was told would not apply for jobs without more provision of this kind). I have questioned a tick box on a form to identify unrepresented populations – ‘a cis gender female who identifies as a woman’.

When I have questioned whether my child is trans, friends have suggested I a) might not know my child well enough to know,  b) am prejudiced or c) do not understand what will be the best pathway for my child.

Fran

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I’ve shown my family (who at first thought I was being unkind) current ‘transwomen’

I tell my two children (one of each sex) that there are no such thing as boy or girl toys/books/colours/hobbies. I will not allow anyone to claim their preferences/personality means they were born in the wrong body. I also refuse to be an unwilling participant in AGP paraphilia/fetish. Womanhood isn’t a costume you can wear, a set of behaviours you can mimic or a club you can join.

I’ve shown my family (who at first thought I was being unkind) current ‘transwomen’ Alex, Rachel, Big Steph, Laurel, Morgane and Lily M. Opened their eyes, big time.

I have been accused of being ‘obsessed’. I point out that I am the mother of a 5 year old girl and that I am determined to stop fetishist men having unfettered access to her changing rooms and sports.

Flintster, Woman. Mum

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I have recently started an international parents group challenging gender affirmative care

I care because homosexual bisexual gifted and neurodiverse kids in the throngs of puberty and adolescence are now being convinced that they were “born in the wrong body” and must transition or they will commit suicide. 

I have spoken with the school and teachers , supported hundreds of other parents online and through my local PROGD support group, talked to anyone who will listen, and I have recently started an international parents group challenging gender affirmative care for children and adolescents. 

People think I’m not supportive of my kid and treat me like an enemy.  I’m excluded from my “liberal” friends and community  now. 

Alexandra, Parent who is thinking critically and wants to protect my child

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We removed her from the school and we left the UK in 2019 to live abroad where being trans at school is not a trend

My daughter aged 12 has learned about LBGT and trans rights at year 7 in a girls school so she identified as a boy.

Extensive talks with school had a very confusing reply and I was told there is nothing we can do as per the British laws.

We removed her from the school and we left the UK in 2019 to live abroad where being trans at school is not a trend.

I am involved in Parent’s groups  where we support each other and lobby for awareness.

Maya R , Worried parent of an ROGD daughter that took very difficult decisions to protect from medicalization

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I am appalled by the message to children

As a mother, I am appalled by the message to children that there might be something wrong with their body just because they don’t fit into society’s stupid rigid stereotypes for girls and boys. As a feminist I am concerned about the natural erosion of women’s hard won rights that comes from eroding the definition of the word woman. I am worried about women losing their safe spaces and women-only platforms.

I have written to my MP and spoken to close family members but I don’t really post on social media and I would be too anxious to post about this. I did tweet using the #theycallmeTERF hashtag once but that’s all. I have supported petitions and crowd funding for legal battles though.

I haven’t really spoken up so no. It makes me feel very anxious.

Jen, Australia