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I got the head of my kids’ primary school to implement the Transgender Trend guidance

I was a teenager in the 90s and grew up with 2nd wave feminism. I am big on female anatomy and biology. I have always supported women and children.

I got the head of my kids’ primary school to implement the Transgender Trend guidance. At work I have changed forms which conflated sex and gender. I have been in meetings with the Baroness Nicholson.

I have been writing endlessly to my local MP ( has never replied). I have been to Women’s Place meetings (sometimes with friends). I have radicalised my mother in law. I have lost friends (good, close real life friends) over the GRA (Gender Recognition Act) debate and cannot speak out completely at work.

C

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Parent

My granddaughter deserves the right to grow up knowing she is female and what that actually means

I care because women’s biological reality is what has been used as an excuse to oppress women – not how we ‘identify’!

It is very important to me to regain women’s right to their own spaces (including but not limited to refuges, prisons, healthcare, social matters, and sexuality), words that describe us (including but not limited to ‘women’ ‘female’ ‘mother’), and the right to discuss what is important without being shouted down, threatened or assaulted.

My granddaughter deserves the right to grow up knowing she is female and what that actually means, without being confused by ‘gender identities’ or by the lack of safeguarding that comes with the TRA agenda.

I have emailed my MP, attended a WPUK event, highlighted the GRA (Gender Recognition Act) consultation on social media, queried myths on social media, supported those who speak gender critical truths, and liked JK on Twitter!

I’ve experienced some vicious attacks on social media, with the loss of some friends.

CE, Woman, mother, grandmother

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Healthcare Parent survivor

It took me a long time to find my voice and now that I’m supporting my daughter to find hers, we will not be silenced.

This matters to me because I’m not about to have a lifetime of sex based oppression, violence and sexual assaults brushed aside to appease anyone. It took me a long time to find my voice and now that I’m supporting my daughter to find hers, we will not be silenced.

I have spoken out online and within friendship groups, joined activist groups, written to MSPs and spoken to social services and my children’s schools.

I have been threatened with sexual and physical violence online as have my family members, one of which is a child, due to speaking up. I’ve had milk thrown at me by a man when delivering leaflets. I’ve been kicked from online and real life LGBT groups. I have also been kicked from many other ‘support’ groups like ones for autistic people and ones for women to uplift other women and a group for women fighting female cancers.

I permanently lost my twitter account for ‘hateful conduct’ because I differentiated between sex and gender. I’ve been marked red on an chrome extension called shinigami eyes which causes people to attack me online for being ‘transphobic’ even when I’m commenting on things not related to gender like my pet rat group.

Ealasaid

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Parent

I care because I don’t want to lose my rights

I care because I don’t want to lose my rights, having 3 daughters, it scares me that in the future they will have no voice at all.

I only raised this issue on social media as I’m afraid of violence and treats from trans activists.

I have been harassed and threatened.

NW, Mom of 3 daughters,

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I want to feel safe in single sex areas.

I don’t want my daughters to feel like they can’t do something because they are the ‘wrong’ sex. Also I want to feel safe in single sex areas.

Suzy

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This has hit my family like a sledgehammer

This has hit my family like a sledgehammer where our vulnerable learning disabled daughter in her early 20s and away at college confessed to us that she had been on the Tavistock Hospital’s waiting list for a year to have a physical “sex change” with surgery and steroids, leading to medical dependency and worsened health.  Our daughter has been caught up in cultish behaviour with her college friends, one of the effects being that parents are regarded as “transphobic” if they voice any concern.

I have contacted and continue to contact my GP, my county councillor, my GP, my daughter’s GP, social services, myself and husband go to Tavistock Hospital trustees meetings, I write on twitter and facebook, I respond to blogs, I tried to get the “Woman” flag erected in my town for International Women’s Day, I have contributed towards the establishment of parents’ organisations and therapy groups. I have had friends criticise me on facebook, I have been suspended several times on twitter, I lie to my daughter about any involvement.

C, parent of GD daughter, feminist, ex-Labour

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This is medicine’s next big scandal

My child identified as trans a few years ago. I wasn’t worried at first, but the more I learnt about the impacts for her and other transitioning young people, and the impact on women and girls generally, the more concerned I became.

I am now convinced that this is medicine’s next big scandal waiting to break, and that trans activism operates as a cult.

I have been to meetings and participated in sharing info on social media. I try to keep evidence on hand so I can counter misinformation.

My child stopped speaking to me – way before I became active. Anything other than full affirmation was not acceptable. I was not supposed to read gender critical sites, and not allowed to express concerns about the medical pathway, even though I offered (qualified) support.

J, Worried parent of older transitioner

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I have a lesbian daughter, and I am appalled at the silencing of women under the guise of progressiveness. It’s dangerous.

I have spoken up wherever I have felt it safe to do so; shared my opinions with friends and family; networked with a wider group of women.

My sister and I ran a campaign challenging gender stereotypes a few years ago – through this we have been ‘outed’ as ‘terfs’ and have received abuse from strangers. I have lost my oldest friend who accused us both of being ‘Terfs’

Emma, Mother, daughter, sister, aunt, campaigner – adult human female

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Education Healthcare Parent

Children need to be allowed to grow up without being manipulated into fulfilling someone else’s idea of what is normal

This matters to me because my eldest son was very gender non conforming. He had an all-female friendship group at school; hated sport; did four dance classes a week; wore bright colours and nail varnish; and dressed-up as female characters on World Book Day and the Golden Jubilee – he made a lovely princess! 

We always told him there’s no right way to be a boy and celebrated his confidence. His two best family friends were ‘trad’ boys and they are still his best friends today. He is now 16, wears mainly black and navy and alongside his one remaining dance class, he does weight training and plans to take up American football!  He’s had a girlfriend, has a diverse friendship group and loves his life as a teen boy. He is horrified when he reads about gender non conforming kids like him being told they are the really the opposite sex. When I read about Mermaids CEO Susie Green’s child, who sounded just like my son as a toddler, my heart breaks. I firmly believe that you don’t really get to know yourself until after puberty.

If an adult wishes to transition, I hope they get the best care and support but children need to be allowed to grow up without being manipulated into fulfilling someone else’s idea of what is normal.

I have written to my MP and various Labour leadership candidates; signed petitions; attended Women’s Place UK and argued gently with friends (either young women or older men in the tech industry) although most of my friendship group and their children agree with me.

A friend from my MA course challenged me about liking ‘transphobic’ tweets. We had a brief, polite discussion and she unfollowed me.

Vee, Teacher

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Education Healthcare Parent

It is so blatantly misogynistic

Why so I care: so many reasons! Because it poses a seismic threat to women and children. Because it is so blatantly misogynistic. But also because it is so crazy and baseless! The sheer madness of it – I’ve never seen anything like it!

What have I done? Mainly stuff on social media such as Twitter and Facebook. Also Instagram.stories which are great because I see the same ppl looking at them – people I wouldn’t expect to be interested!

Have i faced any consequences? Yes loads. A very close friend and his husband no longer speak to me. One of my daughters is angry with me about it and refuses to talk to me about it. Other ppl.have called me mad and obsessed.

Keren, Angry old feminist