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Healthcare Others

I dread to think what would become of me now

I care because I am unwilling to give away my rights and those of my daughter, granddaughter, other family, friends, in fact every female of any age. Women (and some men) fought hard to get the rights we have, the least I can do is protect them, and even strengthen and improve them, for the future.

I was a typical tomboy as a child; I dread to think what would become of me now. I remain utterly baffled as to how anyone can think medicalising children because of their personality can ever be right, and how can anyone truly believe a man becomes a woman just because they say so?

I found other women who felt the same way I do, via Mumsnet, via social media, by talking to people in real life.With their help and support I was able to develop my views and become more confident in talking about them. I joined a political party, I started a petition, I attended events.

I continue to strive to spread awareness of what is going on via my social media presence and by speaking out whenever I can, writing letters (good old fashioned pen and paper ones!), sending emails, responding to campaigns and crowdfunders, constantly aiming to amplify other women’s voices, and those of our allies. I boycott companies (like M&S) who show no respect for their female customers and I tell them why. Lots of tiny things, but if enough of us do them, they have a massive effect eventually.

My views have been called a bigoted and transphobic by women who I thought knew me and respected me. I have been ostracised from an online social group I actually started. I have received dreadful online abuse from strangers, but it is the condemnation from people who I thought were friends that hurts the most. Many friends supported me during this, but did so privately, they were not willing to publicly support me within the group which was hard to deal with.

On the positive side, it has strengthened some friendships; shown me who truly ‘has my back’, and I have made a group of new female friends and acquaintances who fill me with hope and enthusiasm to keep fighting this grim ideology.

Karen, Adult Human Female with a vote, CUPWomensPledge

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Men

I am a man with autogynephilia

I am a man with autogynephilia. I care about this issue, as I can see self ID has enabled, and will enable men with disordered autogynephilia to transition and involve women in sexual experiences they did not consent to.

I think that for some men with autogynephilia, it is compassionate to allow them to transition with sexual reassignment surgery, however this needs to be safeguarded by professionals, to make sure they will not abuse their new protected reassignment status.

I can see from Canada, how men with autogynephilia have transitioned under self ID without safeguards or medical requirements, who have then gone onto abuse their new protected status to involve or coerce women into sexual experiences they did not consent to.

A man with autogynephilia, Canada

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survivor

I am a survivor of severe, organised abuse in childhood

First and foremost, I am a survivor of severe, organised abuse in childhood.

Secondly, I have worked for decades for women and vulnerable people, including as a human rights lawyer for victims of violence, as a writing teacher with mothers in prison and the community and in groups campaigning on consent.

Thirdly, I am a bisexual woman and was on the ‘gay scene’ for years.

Fourth, I am a parent and work often in education and concerned with safeguarding. I care deeply about this issue because whilst I think every consenting adult is free to have their own beliefs and make choices about their body, the TWAW lobby is infringing the human rights of others, with harmful implications and it is constantly threatening and seeking to close down freedom of speech.

I have spoken about this issue on social media and in real life for the past three or more years. I have written countless posts and emails and I have kept a diary on this issue to process my own thoughts before formulating my own speech in what can be a fast paced and abuse-oriented environment on social media.

I have been called a “terf” many times. I have been ostracized by a group of women campaigning with me on abortion rights (though remained good friends with others). On social media I have been told directly that I am “fascist scum” or I have been patronized as an abuse survivor who is somehow biased, disregarding my qualifications as a human rights lawyer and background supporting people. Other negative consequences include the mental health toll of constantly being “gaslit” implying that I am the person in the wrong. A tactic used by those who want to reframe reality the world over and I know that, yet still so sad and wearing!

Anna Morvern, Writer, speaker, teacheryer, translator

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Parent

My daughter is a county level swimmer and self-Id for kids will be abused by ultra competitive parents

This matters to me because my daughter is a county level swimmer and self-Id for kids will be abused by ultra competitive parents, ruining her experience.

Also because single sex spaces need to remain single sex to provide safe spaces for dressing, treatment and recovery.

I have talked to friends and relatives. It did not go to well.

I have been told I’m a rude intolerant woman who have no idea how miserable ALL trans peoples lives are.

Elaine, Mother, swimmer, guide leader, Ireland

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Healthcare Self employed / entrepreneurs

How can anyone not care about that?

I care about this issue because it erodes women’s sex-based rights and causes harm to people who will end up regretting medical transition. Gender identity ideology is incoherent and implicitly relies on, and promotes, regressive sexist stereotypes. Legislating that people must regard male people as female or vice versa is profoundly illiberal and undermines freedom of conscience.

The way in which gender identity ideology has been promoted has resulted in a stifling of normal and essential debate in clinical and political arenas. This has meant that in discussions about serious medical treatment for children, political aims have superseded good medical practice, which is extraordinary. How can anyone not care about that?

I have written to a small political party I used to be a member of, sadly with little effect, and written to other politicians. I’ve donated to gender critical projects. I’ve set out my arguments on Twitter. I decided to do this under my own first name and profile photo, which scared me as I’d seen the abuse that other women had received. But as the views of gender critical people are so routinely misrepresented, I felt I had to do this.

People who know me know that I am not a right wing fundamentalist: I supported gay marriage, raised money for refugees, and am an environmentalist. I wanted my followers to see that someone with similar views to them on other things was gender critical, in the hope they’d listen to the arguments.

When I decided to speak up, I gave up my business account on Twitter. I suffer from anxiety and I knew that I couldn’t handle it if I started getting abuse on there, I wouldn’t be able to defend myself properly.

It’s not as difficult to argue back from a personal account. I think I was right to do so, having seen what happened to Jess de Waal (an embroidery artist who was targeted after speaking up). If I wasn’t financially secure I probably would not have spoken up, I’ve certainly lost sales over it.

The debate has affected my mental health but it would have done so even if I’d remained silent – the disingenuousness of many who smear gender critical women has really astonished me. It’s made me despair because the scientific community has gone along with all this, I’ve lost a lot of the faith I had in people and in democratic checks and balances.  I’ve lost one or two friends over it but not many.

Sheena, Ireland

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Private sector

As a woman in tech, I totally understand what being a minority is

As a woman in tech, I totally understand what being a minority is. I totally get what discrimination is, including plenty of subtle ways that women in tech experience. I know it sucks. I can only imagine how difficult it is for trans people, I feel for them, and I’d love them to be accommodated in any ways possible.

At the same time, I wish advocates of “Trans Women Are Women” opened their eyes to possible abuse if the laws and rights in this matter are not extremely carefully considered. It goes for so many potential issues, from bathrooms, changing rooms, prisons, shelters… I am all for freedoms, respect and rights for underrepresented groups – but these rights cannot come at the cost of rights and safety of another vulnerable group.

I am totally opposed to possibility of ever going to a gym changing room and suddenly seeing a dick and balls on someone next to me.

I am totally opposed to female athletes being beaten by someone who maybe weeks prior was competing in male’s sports. I cannot imagine the horror of a woman escaping to a shelter from abuser – and her getting abused in there by another male presenting as a woman.

I have not spoken out. I wish I had the courage – but I don’t.

 I have witnessed so much abuse going towards the much more powerful women out there, I simply do not want to bring this on myself.

I understand that many of the “trans activists” women have good intentions. I understand their desire to improve lives of other vulnerable groups. But I really, REALLY wish they admitted we live in a “real world”, and for every genuinely vulnerable trans woman, there will also be a man who will put on woman’s clothes only to abuse the situation. For this reason, amongst other things I am totally opposed for self-identification, for ability to just say one day “I’m a woman” and that’s it. It needs to be a proper process – we don’t just let people change nationality on a whim, and surely gender change is an even bigger part of identity than this.

I’m sure there are ways where we can find middle ground, protect trans people whilst ALSO protecting women’s (female!) rights. It’s making me really sad that TRA present this as a black-or-white issue, if you have any concerns then you are a terrible TERF.

I am grateful for your work, and thank you for speaking out for those of us who do not have the courage for this. Even following you sometimes feels like risky business.

L, Europe

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Others

I am strongly invested in women’s rights

As a woman. feminist and mother to three daughters, I am strongly invested in women’s rights.

I’ve spoken to MPs (I’m fortunate to have access), shared information, raised the topic and amplified others’ voices on social media. I also speak with my daughters. I’ve been abused on social media.

Joanne H , Feminist, woman, mother and business owner, Australia

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Self employed / entrepreneurs

It’s terribly unfair that women (again) have to move out of the way to accommodate men

I’m deeply passionate about this issue and have been for a number of years. It’s terribly unfair that women (again) have to move out of the way to accommodate men who wish to be known as women. This will impact on every area of our lives and of future generations.

I am extremely vocal on social media and at home. Not as vocal as I would wish to be within my business as I feel it would have a negative effect on my income. I have been vilified in various women’s groups to the extent I had to leave. I’ve left social media women’s groups voluntarily due to constant abuse for my views.

Shirley R, Women’s rights, For the millionth time, Sister Flo

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Media and Arts trans familiy

Seeing her young daughter being compelled to call her dad is one of the worst abuses of power I’ve witnessed

I feel that my niece’s interests weren’t served by becoming absorbed by the gender movement. It hasn’t helped her development as a person and she has made no progress in dealing with her problems and becoming a self sufficient person. Seeing her young daughter being compelled to call her dad is one of the worst abuses of power I’ve witnessed.

I find the dogma around the ideology threatening. I don’t think we have much to hold onto in life except facts and the truth. I want to be able to speak and hear the truth.

I also do not appreciate being asked to pretend that male violence doesn’t exist, just to make men feel relieved at not having to deal with their problems.

I also liked the Liberation part of Women’s liberation, I liked feeling free. Everything now indicates that women ought not to expect that anymore, almost as if there was a mistake and we all got a wrong message, and our desires, thoughts and creations must be suppressed once more.

In professional settings I have spoken about my anger at political parties’ anti-women stances. I have spoken about the betrayal I felt at seeing accomplished and prominent women saying things to the detriment of other women, for their own personal political gain. I’ve brought up the homophobic and misogynistic message promoted by the movement and have been shunned even by my best friends who are gay.

I’ve identified myself as a female centred feminist and tried to spread that notion.

My livelihood has been threatened. I have been informed that my international agents will not be able to be associated with me if I share my views any further.

I have had two important commissions withdrawn because my views could apparently make young people feel unsafe.

I’ve been informed multiple times that I should be learning from these young people, but not because they are gifted and intelligent. It’s as if I need instruction by some red guard and I find this frightening.

I am aware that my contemporaries will not now promote or include me in ongoing or new projects. It has left me cut off and isolated and wondering how I can move forward in such an oppressive and fanciful intellectual environment.

Another negative consequence is that I feel hardened and wary, and this mindset is not conducive to creative life.

C, creative industries

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Others

This matters to me as a woman

This matters to me as a woman who believes in the rights of women to be safe and protected from male violence.

I have repeatedly questioned trans ideology when I can.

I have been verbally abused.

Emma, former academic