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I do not want to be told to shut up

I am a woman, who is also a Mother and I think meaningful discussion is better achieved when the other side actually listens. I do not want to be told to shut up when it comes to speaking about very real concerns that face Women’s rights today. I have recently become aware of the mass gaslighting of malicious individuals disguised in what was once a cause I supported fully.

I have only recently begun posting to twitter to try and raise awareness of the issues that face women – I have been watching the subject for a while and didn’t have the courage to speak up in defence of why being Gender Critical is not a crime nor is it hateful. I hope to add to what seems to positive momentum.

I haven’t had any consequences yet, but I have seen scores of examples, which were filled with more hate and violence than anything I’ve seen from those who are Gender Critical, so I am at least aware of what kind of things to expect should I receive any negative reply. I am worried however that doxxing may occur following the recent burst in GC and Radical Feminist accounts.

Kelly

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My mission is to get as many men as I can to see the truth and value behind feminism

A friend asked me this ages ago. “Why do you care so much?” I told her it was because I had grown up in an atmosphere that valued civil rights, equality between the sexes (not genders) and social justice. In the intervening years, I have had the good fortune to meet and befriend many remarkable women and understand their concerns. My mission is to get as many men as I can to see the truth and value behind feminism.

I am writing a book called “We Are So Not There Yet”. It’s slow going; I’m nowhere near there yet!

I am constantly slagged off on social media, but since I am retired and a man, I don’t give a damn and give as good as I get.

Paul Milnes, Feminist ally; proud father of a daughter; grandfather

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I am fucking exhausted

I care (deeply) because I am fucking exhausted. I’ve fought for the rights of women since I realised what those rights were at the age of 13. I am now 49 and I am still watching women being told that we do not ‘deserve’ safe spaces, equality, freedom… and still by men.

That I may have to watch this happen to my daughter too makes me feel levels of rage that cannot be described. These men may be wearing lipstick and too much nylon but they are still men and I’ve had enough.

I’ve been active on social media albeit with a pseudonym and while using a VPN because I personally know too many women who have been threatened. I also run my own business which is rooted in feminism so I routinely raise the issue there too with my customers but that is a delicate balacing act which I know could shut me down. I have to chose carefully what I say and when but I’m not stopping. I also talk about this a lot on my personal social media channels which are only accessed by friends and family. Every time I say something, wherever I say it, I have to sum up the consequences.

Have I had any consequences? God, yes.

I’ve seen plenty of threats of assault but I know that’s the last resort of a desperate ideologue so don’t take a lot of notice.

I have lost friends though, amazingly friends who until this point were committed feminists. We only diverged on feminist issues when it came to this issue and it was always my friends who decided they could not be friends with me because their support of men in skirts meant more to them than any defence of women. I have not mourned their moving on in any way but I remain staggered that they think any of this was necessary.

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Healthcare Parent

The future scandal…will be similar to that of thalidomide

I care because I believe the future scandal over the grievous lack of care for children & young adults who will have suffered permanent physical damage will be similar to that of thalidomide.

I care especially about the thousands of young girls, many of them likely to be lesbian, who have been drawn in via social media grooming, in the context of a society that renders potential female role models invisible.

I care because throughout the world women and girls are discriminated and oppressed on the basis of their sex. They cannot identify out of it. They need safe, specialised, single sex services and spaces.

I have shared & commented on gender critical articles and opinions on twitter. But not before removing all links to my political party from my bio. Not for fear for myself, as I have no political ambition, but in order not to damage by association other women. I do not post about my local party, or my activity within it. I have attended Woman’s Place meetings & posted about them.

I have raised numerous times with my political party, so far to no avail, my dismay that they no longer collect data on sex, a protected characteristic in the 2010 Equality Act. Worse, if members consult the individual data held by the Labour Party, previous data given years ago on sex has been converted without permission to ‘gender identity’, with the entirely false claim that this data has been provided to them by me. It has not!

I am regarded by most party activists as transphobic, as is anyone who speaks up for women’s sex based rights. I am retired, so have no concerns about my employer being pursued. I suspect official complaints will have been made about me.

My male partner, who has a lifetime’s working experience in child protection & investigation of historic child abuse, was called transphobic and dismissed as ‘an old white man’ for daring to mention autogynephilia in a meeting.

Red Swan, Socialist feminist, mother & grandmother

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We need to stop the normalisation of this ideology

My daughter announced she was trans a few years ago. She wishes to pursue medical transition. She is 15, autistic and has many mental health issues. School, mental health services and medical services have all changed her name and pronouns against my wishes. We need to stop the normalisation of this ideology. Stop teaching kids they can be the opposite sex if they want to. Stop allowing medical experimentation on the young, autistic, mainly bi or lesbian girls of this generation.

I helped start Bayswater Support Group, a parent support network to help parents who question the affirmation only approach to kids who declare a trans identity. I have attended feminist events, I shout loud on twitter and have conversations with relevant medical and mental health personnel to try and change their approach.

I have lost one of my oldest friends as her child was one of the youngest to ever take puberty blockers in the uk. I have been blocked by friends because I refuse to accept this ideology.

Genuinely , A mum and a doctor, ready to do battle to keep the gender ideologies away from my child

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My eldest daughter has unfollowed me on Twitter

I’m a woman and a mother to two grownup daughters and I don’t want our long-fought-for rights to be erased (by men).

On Twitter I’ve re-tweeted gender-critical tweets, commented on tweets, reported accounts and tweets and followed gender-critical accounts.

My eldest daughter has unfollowed me on Twitter and given me a lecture on my views. Small beer, maybe, but I’m upset and frustrated that we can’t discuss it and that she can’t see the consequences of her stance for women, feminism and the gay community.

E, Mum to 2 daughters. Wishy-washy liberal

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I do not want our sex based right cancelled

I am a feminist since 13, now 62, I do not want our hard won sex based right cancelled.   Women are still oppressed through violence and for many lower social economic status.  We still fight to have our views respected.

I have joined groups that defend female rights regarding transgender legislation.  I am disabled by illness now.

My sister said the issue was laughable and could see no issue with self ID.  A UK man called me a female supremacist.  Have been called a terf numerous times.  Continually called transphobic for saying as a female I should continue  to have female sex based rights. 

Dee

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My daughter has called me a terf

I care because I have four children. They are aged 18, 16, 13 and 9. The older two are fully into the gender identity cult. My daughter (16) has called me a terf and told me that my version of feminism is wrong, I need to include trans women in my feminism. My older son (18) has many online friends who are trans. I am scared by their acceptance that once a boy says they are a girl they are automatically ‘she’.

I have tweeted and retweeted accounts and I have spoken to other parents within family and at school.

I have been lucky enough not to attract too much attention but one tweet was retweeted by a famous account and I was swamped with people saying my daughter was right and that she should be taken away from me. I muted the replies.

Liz May, Concerned parent

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I have been permabanned from Twitter for saying a male cannot be a lesbian

I care because I’m a woman and I have a daughter. As a mother I want to keep woman’s rights protected and ensure she’ll have even more safety and opportunity than I had.

I’ve been very active in social media and building up a network to take action in my home country.

I have been permabanned from twitter, losing my personal account of 7 years for saying a male cannot be a lesbian. I lost every subsequent account I opened with the reason being ‘banned for running multiple account for the purpose of hateful behaviour’.  All appeals denied.

Jane, Proud Irish mom and feminist

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I loathe the anti-science being broadcast

This really matters to me – I am a mother, with a post-graduate degree level education in biology, and I do some work, plus volunteering, in schools. And I have friends who are major activists & champions for trans-rights, who I see actively misleading us all, and actually being disingenuous to some perfectly lovely local trans-folk.

I am genuinely fearful of being shouted down, labelled a ‘bigot’ or ‘transphobic’, being removed from friendship groups, being excluded & misrepresented.

I fear that in I speaking up, my views will jeopardise my work, and trash my other community activities.

As someone who lives life as ‘evidence-based’, I loathe the anti-science being broadcast.

I dislike the cherry-picking of poor quality data. I hate the deliberate confusion of sex and gender everywhere. 

I am deeply concerned at nonsensical concepts being integrated into my children’s life, school & social groups (e.g. Woodcraft Folk).

I have re-tweeted lots of informative articles to friends, and personally discussed lots of issues with a larger group, on- and off-line. I have challenged & discussed the sex-gender & ‘born in the wrong body’ concept with medical professionals (who seem to agree with me!). I am planning to write a personal, in-depth and explanatory letter to several friends to explain ‘the other side of the story’. Some friends are politically active, but just state ‘transwomen are women, no debate’ without seemingly understanding that they are hurting their own lefty, feminist supporters.

I have felt silenced. I have had to tolerate misogynistic nonsense on my social media and can’t remove or challenge it (yet). In real life I’ve had upsetting arguments and felt belittled or misrepresented. I await more serious consequences as my anger grows, compelling the need to speak.

Scared woman., Gender-rejecting, not-cis, large-gametes