Author: bomp123

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I have also read, and read, and learned and learned

Being female is a material reality in this world and women and girls across the world are disadvantaged (at best) and murdered (at worst) because of it. We as people, and our organisations and governments must not be allowed to lose sight of this truth.

I have joined a local feminist group (gathered via Mumsnet). I have written to and have visited my MP. I have written to newspapers, attended WPUK and other meetings, donated to crowdfunders. I discuss this in depth (and completely uncompromisingly) on another small forum where facts can be stated quite openly.

I have also read, and read, and learned and learned.

I am a freelance IT worker mainly for companies too small for Stonewall to bother with, but did once have a conversation with a (junior) member of staff at a client about my list of browser bookmarks in a screenshot I had sent. It was in one sense entirely unproblematic – the person in question agrees with me and that was partly how he had recognised the bookmarks list (!) – but we agreed I had better move them to a more discreet location in a separate folder as not everyone in the company would be OK with it.

Jenny S, Adult human female

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We had a great conversation and hope to repeat it

This matters to me because I can not stand by while men lie about their intentions and their hijacking of the trans rights movement to allow male-bodied people into female-only spaces. They have no concern or regard for our safety and use gaslighting and emotional arguments to present themselves as victims and those who disagree as aggressors who threaten their lives.

I have written blog posts on the subject and engaged with TRAs on Twitter, trying to get a handle on their side of the story, which basically is “Accept us at our word you evil TERF, and stop whining about your safety and dignity.”

I have also spoken to the mother of a trans child on a Zoom call, working to build bridges between GC and TRAs. She shares my fears for women’s dignity and safety while wanting to create a world where her child won’t be shut out and rejected for not being a “real” woman. We had a great conversation and hope to repeat it. Her honesty makes it worthwhile.

I have been unfollowed, and some prominent people have tried to “correct” me. I’ve been able to stand up to them, though.

Wendy Cockcroft, Asker of awkward questions, lover of objective reality and truth

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Its stealing our ability to describe sexism

I think this is the biggest women’s issue of our age. Its stealing our ability to describe sexism.

I’ve talked to people in my personal life. Explained the issue and my objections

I’ve been repeatedly blocked and unfollowed online. I’m sure it would be much worse if I wasn’t anon.

M, Mother of a daughter, domestic violence survivor

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Why did my mother have to suffer for years with her womb

As a woman who hasn’t been believed and made to feel bad for being sexually assaulted, I find it terrifying that women’s voices are still not heard. I am not traumatised by the event but other women are by theirs and pushing ideology on people only makes that worse.

Why did my mother have to suffer for years with her womb because they couldn’t be bothered to deal with it, whereas had she identified as man she may have not had to suffer as long.

I was told at 16 I was too young for a hysterectomy as I may want kids one day. I’m glad they didn’t take me seriously in some ways as now in my 30s I am considering children.

However, it is this disregard towards women and their feelings and their bodies that does not sit right with me. This is before we even get on to the topic of men identifying as women being allowed to compete as women in sport!

I am quite active on Twitter in the Gender Critical movement. I was threatened rape on twitter and the tweet was deleted and the account suspended.

KS, Biology cannot be denied

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Healthcare Private sector

Gender ideology is regressive sexist bullshit

Gender ideology is regressive sexist bullshit. I am afraid for my children. I am worried that messages around being gender non conforming means that a child is encouraged into a lifetime of medical interventions to ‘change your body’. I’m worried that we’re opening doors to men with nefarious intent into places where women are the most vulnerable.

I have written to my MP, written to my children’s school about their equality policy, written to the NHS donor scheme to as about why they are collecting data on gender, donated to crowd funders looking at the Oxford transgender toolkit, plus others.

I have been very careful not to use my name where possible, and stuck to provable facts when raising concerns.

K, Engineer, primary caregiver, adult human female

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I want all trans people to be protected from male violence, but not at the cost of women

I am concerned about fairness. I am concerned about how easily and quickly women’s rights have been handed over. I want all trans people to be protected from male violence, but not at the cost of women. We need to find a solution that works for all of us. I am also increasingly concerned about the nature of ‘no debate’ and the ideological nature of this discussion. or lack of discussion. Very reminiscent of Catholic upbringing, the idea of not being able to question something, even when it impacts me.

I have spoken to a couple of family members about this. I have been written off ‘having gone right wing.’ I have liked a couple of tweets when I felt brave.

Feeling so unable to speak about something so unfair feels awful. I have never known anything like it. I feel gagged.

My sister in law thinks I have been brainwashed by the American right. I cannot understand how. I am so left wing, so liberal! I just daren’t speak with my friends about this. I am scared that it will end my friendships.

Hannah

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Medicalising healthy bodies to fix broken minds can never end in happily ever after

I care about this issue because the world is already a dangerous place for women and children. I believe gender self ID will make it more so as men will use it to gain access to women and children.

I care because it’s a nonsense and a fiction to say trans women are women. I will never go along with this outrageous lie.

I care because children are being sold a dream that doesn’t exist when they are told puberty blockers, hormones and surgeries will solve all their problems. Medicalising healthy bodies to fix  broken minds can never end in happily ever after.

I have raised awareness by highlighting the issues to people outside of social media.

So far I have not encountered any negative consequences. I do believe it is just a matter of time, though. The more I continue to rage against this ideology the more likely I am to find consequences. It does worry me.

Max, Adult human female

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Men didn’t want to be women when women had nothing for themselves

This matters to me because it feels like only yesterday to me that some of the freedoms we enjoyed for a while were won. I don’t think it right that hard won rights are being taken away by men. Men didn’t want to be women when women had nothing for themselves. It is just misogyny plain and simple and it makes me very angry.

I have written to my MP, with no success at all. Just got the TWAW (transwomen are women) reply. I speak up at work and have not been reprimanded yet. I speak up at home but my daughter is very woke and we disagree on this. She is very much TWAW, her only wobble was learning about Yaniv and she went off self I-d for a while, but after more training at work she is back on the TWAW bandwagon.

I have had arguments with my daughter. My sister also believes TWAW. They both work in education and have had the training. At work there have been no consequences up to now. But I always stay respectful and everyone knows I am a fair person.

I support LFC (and Maya), It feels like the erasure of something so obvious, so based in fact and science, that I am concerned we as a people are being gaslighted.

I write on twitter.

Janice V, Feminist and gender critic

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I don’t want to risk my hard won fought for rights go to men

I care because as a woman I don’t want to risk my hard won fought for rights go to men. I have three daughters and I am very worried about what this new world means for them and all young women.

I haven’t done enough. I have been scared by some unpleasant interaction on twitter.

Paula, Woman, mother of 3 daughters

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Sex matters

I have an elderly mother, a teenage daughter & I’m in my 40s. We are all impacted by the loss of single sex protections for different, but entirely biologically female reasons, and sex remains the common factor in the ways we are impacted in the same and differing ways. Loss of privacy, dignity, safety, recovery from trauma and the right to participate in public life – we all have reasons for the need of female only provisions across many aspects of our lives.

Sex matters, and continues to impact all of us in the various ways we navigate through day to day life.

I’ve organised, researched, spoken up, contacted elected representatives, local authorities, and in most official capacities, I have been ignored, or dismissed without adequate justification or explanation.

I’ve lost a good friend, I worry about the impact on my job if my online identity was confirmed.  Not because I have ever been abusive or harassed anyone, or engaged in ‘bigotry’ but because I believe my right to recognise sex as a material reality is important. Surveys at work no longer address sex, instead they ask for gender identity, something that I do not believe in.

Bones123, Adult Human Female