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Healthcare Public Sector

I quickly realised it was largely abuse survivors and women worried about their children speaking up

It was, in the first instance a bullying issue for me. I was a Labour Party officer, responsible for membership in our CLP and was appalled at the way a small local group were being allowed to mistreat and slander women.

When I started talking to people, I very quickly realised that it was largely abuse survivors and women worried about their children who were speaking up and in both cases, they seriously needed back up. I was a ‘known terf’ by then and thought ‘oh well, I’m out there – may as well get on with it.’

I have written blog posts, and articles for newspapers.

 I have attended planning groups for women’s organisations, and spoken at a WPUK meeting.

I spent as much time as I could spare visiting women’s groups in different areas, and having one-to-one meetings with people I felt could use more support and/or had something to teach me about the issues involved.

I did try to put a motion through my local Labour Party but, after my branch passed it almost unanimously, the LP withdrew it as ‘controversial’ after a man had a tantrum in another branch.

I have been extensively slandered on social media and in my home town – bizarrely, this has had positive consequences as well as negative ones – a colleague and I organised a WPUK meeting in my town which was an enormous positive overall, but led to members of the local Pride group sending slanderous letters about us to the council and to any venue in town they could think of so, I’m self-employed, and have probably lost business through being ‘controversial’ and have certainly suffered a lot of stress.

I was turned down by the local Labour Party as a council candidate. The stated reason was that there was a complaint about me in process but, when I went to an appeal hearing, the reason given was they didn’t like my blog.

Did I lose friends? Not really – losing false friends leads to finding new and more interesting ones.

Kay Green, socialist feminist, former Labour Party officer

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Healthcare Others

I see it as child abuse

I care because I see it as child abuse- telling children they are born in the wrong body is wrong  and committing them to a life of medication and ill health to promote an ideology based on fantasy, queer theory and profit is hideously wrong!

I also see an erosion of women’s sex based rights that have been hard fought for over time – if a man can simply declare himself a woman it undermines us essentially;  be it in sport, in refuges or any single sex space that is segregated and held for the safety of girls and women . I am aghast that this ideology has taken such hold. Largely autogynephils who are essentially fetishests proclaiming themselves as women. The entire trans umbrella is now a wide apron allowing far too many to stand under in the name of progressive gender politics but is nothing of the kind- it is instead regressive, abusive  and based mostly on narcissist fantasy fuelled by big pharma and bodies with vested interest.

I have written, joined groups, attempted to bring it up at local labour meetings and more.

Yes. I have been shunned by local Labour largely and treated like a pariah for my views.

Shernaz D, Concerned grandmother and woman

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Healthcare Parent

I see children being pushed into unhealthy choices

This matters to me because of the gross unfairness of women’s rights and voices being erased and the gaslighting of trying to convince us a man in a dress is a woman.  It matters to me because I see children being pushed into unhealthy choices by societal pressures of the kind we have been trying to break down for decades.  This is regressive and most of the general public is unaware of this and would not even believe some of the things that are happening.

I have spoken to staff and emailed my child’s school (secondary) and been able to have a positive discussion and point them in the direction of Transgender Trend.  I have frequently contributed to crowdfunders.  I spoken to certain friends and family and at work I have spoken to some adults who I have known for some time and feel I can trust on this issue. I have sometimes liked and retweeted on twitter but I use my real name and am very afraid of attacks and abuse and so I have never written my own tweets and am very cautious.  I have written to my MP and signed petitions and letters.

I have been extremely cautious and not spoken up as much as I would like.

C, concerned parent

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Self employed / entrepreneurs

I suspect that I am getting less freelance work from one particular organisation as a result of being gender critical

I was formed by 1970s and 80s feminism. Women had – and/or made – their own spaces. A couple of years ago I became aware that this now was seen as ‘exclusionary’. As a survivor of sexual abuse the idea of men being able to easily access spaces by saying they ‘identified as a woman’ is very frightening to me. It seemed vital that self-ID should not be introduced via reforms to the Gender Recognition Act.

As a lifelong socialist I am appalled by the way in which the Left seems to have abandoned any kind of recognition of sex-based inequality. It frightens me that girls and young women are labelled transphobic for trying to protect their own dignity, privacy and safety. It frightens me that women from conservative religious groups risk being further marginalised if they cannot access female-only spaces.


I have been fairly vocal on social media – FB and Twitter. I’ve gone to a Woman’s Place UK meeting. I made a submission to the consultation about possible reform to the Gender Recognition Act. I also wrote to my MP about this topic. I’ve also raised this issue within the religious group I belong to – the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers).


I suspect that I am getting less freelance work from one particular organisation as a result of being gender critical. This annoys me hugely as I have done a lot of very good work for them. I’ve been barred from a Quaker FB Discussion group whose moderators all support gender identity theory. I’ve lost one FB friend and for a while my daughter – then a student blocked me.

Sibyl Ruth, Writer, library worker, parent and step-parent, gender critical feminist., SibylWrites

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Healthcare Others

I am outraged at the lies the gender lobby tell about female athletes

I care very much about the girls and women who are being mistaken or rumour mongered  as masquerading as female , the hurt this causes them , the danger this puts them in.

I am outraged at the lies the gender lobby tell about female athletes and the pretence that males entering female sports is harmless and fair .

Further to the female athlete point I’m also outraged at the lies the gender lobby have been spreading about Michele Obama , the pretence she must be a transwoman or at very least is intersex and must have used surrogates etc. And now the cover up that this was a Republican plot . Trump might be lots of things but he isn’t pretending men can be women or that any girl or woman as tall and intelligent as Michele Obama must therefore be at least a physiologically masculinised female if not a full blown male.

I do not want sex based words to be redefined or the theory that sex is on a spectrum taught in schools. I worry that sex spectrum theory is being /will be used to shame and humiliate girls who are taller than average or have facial features which have been deemed ‘masculine’ by genderists.

I am concerned the whole thing is an attempt to establish a big bad rational dominant men , little good irrational submissive women norm and destroy feminism once and for all along with naturalising male aggression and hiding female passive aggression too.

I’m also concerned about children being manipulated into damaging their bodies and having their wombs removed. And young men being tricked into sexual activity with other men and then being demonised for reacting badly to such abuse too.

I have been posting on social media and newspaper comments sections , supporting crowdfunders , fighting the good fight whenever I get the chance. Since 2017 mainly on Twitter.

I’ve been blocked and given verbal abuse.

Mary, Middle aged mother

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Healthcare Parent

The next argument would be let them decide when they can have sex

This matters because I have very young children. Trans rights activists want to indoctrinate my perfectly healthy children into thinking they can change/choose their gender. Dysphoria is a mental illness. People aren’t born in the wrong body. Particularly, if they do not present DSD. Stonewall are coming after the kids. I’ll give you crazy. this whole thing – erasing single sex spaces, teaching kids session 4 of proud trust BS is a front to reach the kids and lower the age of consent.

It’s a systematic procedure to allow child sexual abuse. GI just promoted children to look intensely at their body. In ways, it densensitises the way they feel. Distant and overly sexual. If an under 8 is taught to enjoy their bodies as per WHO suggestion then the next argument would be let them decide when they can have sex.

I speak about it to as many people willing to listen. I’ve signed petitions. I’m raising posts to put on Asian forums as Asians tend to comply a lot and have faith in schools. They need to know about these ideologies.

Negative consequences? Yes, that I’m a bigot. Transphobic. Why does it bother me that a “few” are in a predicament. Does it really harm me? How many “ trannys” have I actually come across. Arguments within the family (English side).

H P, Woman, daughter, sister and mother. Then wife, Hinalks

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Self employed / entrepreneurs

I would raise my voice a lot more if I didn’t fear for my business

I care because appropriating the word “women” to include men pretending to be women, erases women. It diminishes our rights and has been shown to place us in a subordinated position where we are actively silenced and openly bullied.

I have used Twitter to voice my objections regularly but anonymously. I am involved in Fair Cop campaign to address stonewall’s and mermaids’ institutional capture. I would raise my voice a lot more if I didn’t fear for my business.

I have been shunned by friends, received abuse and threats online. I fear for my business and have to remain away from any publicity.

Peaky FFS, Gender critical woman and free speech advocate, shurelynot

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Voluntary sector

Most of the women we support feel safe knowing we only support women

I work with women who have suffered abuse in a women’s only service. Most of the women we support feel safe knowing we only support women. I worry they will feel less safe or be put at risk if people are simply able to self ID. Predators will take advantage of anything and this seems like a way for them to access vulnerable women and limit the ability of organisations to protect women.

I have followed feminists on Twitter, conducted research and shared information- admittedly not too much as worried about fall out at work.

Lauren, Domestic abuse support worker

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Healthcare Voluntary sector

I have watched too many abused women and their children walk out of services …because they are no longer being treated as single sex spaces

I care because I have spent more than 20 years providing advocacy and support for victims of male violence and for the last few years have watched too many abused women and their children walk out of services other women fought tooth and nail to have provided for them, safe spaces away from men and the risk of abuse

They are walking out because they are no longer being treated as single sex spaces and the main services providers for some reason want to pretend this is OK women are being made to feel unsafe and uncomfortable by the services meant to help them.

I have where ever possible challenged the TWAW rhetoric and the women shouldn’t be scared of other women nonsence.

I’ve been threatened with violence both online and in real life.

T

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Voluntary sector

This matters to me personally because of the way some TRAs treat survivors of abuse/rape

This matters to me personally because of the way some TRAs treat survivors of abuse/rape who are unwilling to share female spaces with those who are physically male. More broadly I’m also concerned about safety in prisons and hospital wards and the effects on women’s sports.

I have spoken out anonymously online and there have been some rather heated debates in my workplace.

IC, Cat person, feminist, abuse survivor