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I can’t stand that women have been harassed for defending sex based rights

I can’t stand that women have been harassed for defending sex based rights. That children are being fast-tracked on dangerous treatments. Or that sexual orientation is even being attacked. The behavior of the activists is often abusive and manipulative, and it is downright frightening and angering at times.

I post and share things on social media all the time. I have signed and shared a few petitions and I have tried to speak up about it to people in real life, with mixed results.

Online I have been called a bigot, a terf, a Nazi, a white supremacist, I have been sent obscene images. My accounts have been reported. In real life I have fought with friends over this.

Allison, Haven’t lost my mind yet due to terminal wokeness but getting there, USA

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Healthcare

We must remember our hippocratic oath – first, do no harm

I have looked after a trans patient who I met through the injuries they got when they tried to commit suicide.

I then knew a neighbour’s kid who became trans and requested to be known as a different name. This kid’s parent is employed as a parenting expert running Council courses on parenting and I was intrigued and worried as to how miserable they seemed despite a v supportive family.

My sister is lesbian and on the more butch end of the spectrum when she goes to parties though not in day to day life. I realised she would have had pressure to trans if she was living her childhood now and I feel protective to both my patient (who had life changing injuries) and neighbour’s kid.

I have two daughters who are very girly though I myself am a tomboy I would say. As a paediatrician I particularly strongly object to the treatment of rogd (rapid onset gender dysphoria) and in fact all gender dysphoria with hormone blockers /hormones /surgery in children. Logically any of these treatments should be reserved for age 25 plus when brain is emotionally matured.

Legally treatments should be reserved until age 18  I believe but this is against usual medical practice.

I hate the thought these unhappy kids and teenagers may lose sexual health and function, plus libido and osteoporosis etc etc all because the medical profession is failing them. We must remember our hipppcratic oath – first, do no harm.

I have discussed with my sisters who defend trans rights and tell me I’m wrong (including my sister who is lesbian). I have briefly mentioned to my husband. I have read widely on line. I have posted on twitter  once asking whether lockdown may be good for teen trans kids. Otherwise I have not posted as I’m scared of personal and professional repurcussions.

My sisters are slightly distanced from me and critical of my beliefs.

JS, Paediatric doctor and mum of two kids

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Healthcare Men

It seems strange to me that many lefty types have a blind spot when it comes to women

I care about women’s spaces, their safety, privacy and dignity. It seems strange to me that many lefty types have a blind spot when it comes to women.

I also worry about children who don’t conform to typical gender expectations thinking that they are wrong and need to be corrected.

I talk to my friends and family about this issue as much as I think is possible without alienating / boring them.

I discuss this issue on Twitter most days.

On Twitter I am repeatedly told I am hateful, a bigot or some variation of that theme. At times this has impacted in my mental health. I know I am not motivated by hate, but the idea that I am unwittingly upsetting others sometimes gets to me. I have been sent idle threats, but nothing specific enough to scare me.

JustDavidDavid, pro trans, anti gender

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Healthcare

I have been utterly disillusioned by many organisations who should have safeguarding at their core

This matters to me because of the many very serious safeguarding implications. It has illustrated the multiple points of failure of safeguarding frameworks & it will always be the most vulnerable children & adults who will bear the consequences. It is ethically impossible to ignore these. I have been horrified by the treatment of those who are whistleblowing the issues.

I have contributed to the knowledge base of women who are raising their voices. I have ensured that I am very well informed.

There is so much misinformation. Evidence based responses are crucial as well as helping people feel more confident to dispel the avalanche of myths.

I have been utterly disillusioned by many organisations who should have safeguarding at their core. The safeguarding issues I raised with my MP were dismissed out of hand. She did not provide any evidence as rebuttal.

S

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Healthcare Others

The silencing of women on this issue is driven by men

I care because I worry about the future for girls and women and I’m outraged about the slow creep of corporate subservience to organisations like Mermaids and Stonewall.

As a little girl I would have expected my Mum (and Dad) to stand up for my rights and although I don’t have kids I have an 8 year old niece. Why should she have to get changed into her swimming costume in front of men masquerading as women? Why should she have to compete against boys masquerading as girls if she chooses to play competitive sport.

The silencing of women on this issue is driven by men and I say this as a heterosexual woman who is in a loving marriage. But if you speak up you are dismissed as transphobic: possibly the laziest insult around these days. I’m increasingly uneasy about being a member of my company’s ERG LGBT group which is aligning itself with Stonewall and all its dubious misogynistic views. Lesbians are being erased and expected to accept male bodied partners. Children being told they are a different gender and young ones being given puberty blockers. A very frightening world.

I am regularly educating and raising awareness with my friends. Only last night two gay friends who are big Harry Potter fans were saying they were confused and didn’t understand the issues with JK Rowling. They were shocked when I told them the issues. It’s easy to assume that all LGB people know all the facts: many are blissfully unaware.

I would absolutely love if someone in the movement could create some materials which people like me in corporations could share internally to raise concerns about the likes of Stonewall who have a jack boot on the neck of big companies in the UK. Most organisations have an internal ‘speak up’ whistleblower mechanism which can be used if people are concerned about anonymity. Not really for me.

I’m a confident and articulate person. I tend to find that those who I speak to are  totally unaware of the facts and when they hear them they are horrified. I suspect many people are watching on the sidelines terrified to be labelled transphobic especially those in the public eye.

Lou, A left leaning feminist who can no longer tolerate the erosion of womankind

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Healthcare Parent

To throw our rights away on fantastical lies is abhorrent

This matters to me because through studying history I have seen the struggle that women went through in order to garner our rights. To throw them away on fantastical lies is abhorrent to me.

I have also watched as the TRAs (trans rights activists) have engaged in attacks straight out of Mao’s strategy book attacking individuals whose only crime is stating the truth.

The erasure of women’s rights, the re-writing of history, the erasure of lesbianism and the erasure of safe spaces for the vulnerable is a coordinated attack and one I feel that I must stand against.

I have made Twitter posts and I have driven my husband mad with my rantings about indoctrination of children at school

I have experienced vitriol on Twitter.

A, I was part of the silent majority, now I add my voice

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Parent

The gender dysphoria is not viewed as a mental health issue and must be accepted at face value and be continually validated

My daughter is adopted from care. She has suffered neglect and abuse. As a very little girl she was powerless to stop that abuse. Now at 17 she believes she is a boy, suffers from depression and a dissociative disorder.

All three are caused by her trauma but the gender dysphoria is not viewed as a mental health issue and must be accepted at face value and be continually validated

I have raised my concerns about the affirmative approach with school – who did not inform us when our daughter started expressing discomfort about her gender to 2 male members of staff.

College view her as a boy and when I raise questions about the cause of a trans identity I am treated with incredulity that I could hold such out- dated opinions! Fortunately social services and our psychologist are more curious.

Not really experienced consequences – other than being viewed as a transphobic dinosaur by some college staff. We tread a very tricky path with our daughter but she is still with us despite knowing our deep concerns. This does put a considerable strain on family life.  

E, Adoptive parent

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Healthcare

I’ve been cautious, but find colleagues interested and in agreement

I work with women and children, have a safeguarding role, I’m a survivor of sexual abuse and domestic violence.

I have spoken up to my work colleagues about my concerns re self ID, puberty blockers and stated I’m shocked our profession isn’t more informed.

I’ve been cautious, but find colleagues interested and in agreement.

A, Health Visitor

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As a nurse I wish to safeguard children and maintain single sex wards for women

As a nurse I wish to safeguard children and maintain single sex wards for women

I have tried to discuss the issue with the Equality Diversity and inclusion lead at work.

I’ve been accused of transphobia by the aforementioned person.

Christine

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Healthcare Others

Men are still telling women what to think

As a woman I care about this because women’s hard won rights are being eroded.  We need single sex spaces and sports to ensure safety, dignity and equality.  I’m worried that children are being pushed into irreversible medical procedures without the knowledge or maturity to make a wise decision.  Men are still telling women what to think, in fact what we are, it’s the same old misogyny as ever.

I have attended Woman’s Place UK meetings.  I submitted evidence to the GRA consultation.  I’ve written to my MP about my concerns.  I’ve spoken to friends and family about the issue.

I’ve been very careful about who I speak to and what I say so I haven’t personally experienced negative consequences. 

As a 63 year old woman I have a lot of older friends, all the women I know in this age bracket are very concerned about this issue, especially about children being pushed into irreversible medical procedures. 

I’ve heard a lot of stories from other women about the abuse they’ve experienced in the past which makes them particularly anxious to maintain single sex spaces for girls and women as an urgent issue.

Maggie, Woman